Deflowered (part-2)

 Hello everyone hope you all are doing fine and leading a happy life .  

In India ,

*India recorded an average of 87 rapecases daily in 2019 and overall 4,05,861 cases of crime against women during the year, a rise of over 7% from 2018, the latest government data released on September 29, 2020.

*One rape was reported every 16 minutes in Indiain 2019.

Not only girls even boys are counted too. This is what the census is like and these are all about registered cases ,still  so many unregistered cases are there,Jo  samaaj k darr se ,bejjati k darr Kabhi file hi nhi hote . 

These are all facts, we can't change.

In our previous post we all got to know about Ayisha , her life, her journey ,her struggle and her sorrowful past.

And this story is about the same only. Brief jist : Ayisha a teen ,who got pregnant after getting bruttaly raped and decided to keep her baby  . I have told you about her decision but not about the struggle she faced .

In Indian society after ,sexually assault ,according to them ,Zindagi vhi Ruk jaati h and by any chance, she got pregnant that means a Hell. And for god sake if she decides to keep the baby like Ayisha ,means bichare zinda toh honge lekin pal pal maut k ghaat utaare jaayenge(commo

n thinking) , har second izzat ki dhajjiyaan udaayi jaayegi ,Ganda khoon , slut , and many things . Ayisha faced the same thing when she decided to keep the baby kya Kuch nhi Kaha Hoga  logon ne but she choose to block all those comments and to move on with what she decided. 

As one of my friend said 

"Indian society and I don't think it  was possible to her to be a mother as such a young age she wasn't physically , financially , emotionally  and mentally ready for this. It is easier said than done  as giving birth to a child and raising a child are two different things . And she was ready to abort the child untill she knew that she can't conceive again so she could adopt a child when she was ready for being a mother financially and mentally . I won't support  giving such a life to a child  Which is worse than hell because he won't be able to live peacefully as he will not get his rights will be discriminated and will have to fight for each and every single thing  and it's no benifit in living like that ." - Anusha .

This is what girls like Ayisha fear ,ki they won't be able to live peacefully ,will be discriminated and have to fight continuously. I won't deny these things as we all know it's the bitter truth of  society.(rest read further also)

Another thing now which is totally different ,so sorry but my intentions are not to harm anyone ,

so another point of view ,

"Hi Don'take me wrong but I feel the view presented here is quite heroic and not practical. It's ok if it's a film or serial, to show a happy ending. But in real life your story actually starts from here. I feel it's rarely that people take this decision until and unless they can't abort the child due to medical reasons. 

Also, the motive of the person doing wrong was to hurt you and ruin your life. And you have done it yourself now. Having a child at such a young age and that too being a single mother is not a piece of cake.

Can't even imagine what she has to go through in INDIAN SOCIETY and of course her career is also totally ruined. It might be looking generous and  motherly keeping the child, but when you think deeply, you realise the moment the child comes in this world, he will have to fight with every force tagging and disgracing him and his mom. 

So, simply it won't be a good childhood to go through. Don't kill the child, but give a life to him that is worse than hell. And ruin your life to the greatest possible extent,  when it could all have been ok with moving on.This is what this solution represents. Yes, I agree it's not that easy as it seems, but difficult way will give you a fruitful life and the emotionally chosen one will be giving a harsh and humiliating one. If you are mentally strong enough, go for keeping the child, but if you have even slightest of the doubt, abort it. This is the solution according to me."- ARSHDEEP

Now would like to share my thoughts, my point of view here , first it's not like a tv'c it's not  for sure like ki It's only possible in Hindi drama ,then I must say ki it's just a "veham" these things can exist, can happen too and it's not like ki everytime if a girl got raped then conceived ,took the decision to raise the child ,only have a dead end or bad ending why we think like that ?why? If we say ki nothing is impossible then why it is not possible ? It's not completely compulsory ki she will only meet disgusting people who will taunt her on the basis for her ,she will also meet those people who will support her stand  up for her and those people will make impossible " I AM POSSIBLE".  Just because I didn't mention what she suffered doesn't mean ki idk what she would have gone thru.       

I know it's not a piece of cake but she decided that so she already have thought about ki what it will be like in future . When  These things happen ,koi aisa decision leta h toh hum pahele hi yeh sochana shuru KR dete h ki she must have gone insane ,took the decision emotionally, not practical enough ,but yeh bhul jaate h ki she might have thought it through beforehand ,why can't we keep this in our hypothesis too ,pahele SE yhi bolna ki it's wrong without asking about their POV is wrong .

 And I strongly disapproves ki after giving birth her career will be ruined ,how?  In ancient times women used to conceive in their teens only and still they were able to have a good life and good career too, there are so many single mothers around us who got pregnant at young age conceive and now are successful . It's all in our mind that's it ,just a myth nothing else.  Hum yeh Bolte h "aurat chahe toh kya Kuch nhi KR Sakti "so apply bhi krna chahiye . Zindagi Ruk nhi jaati h voh chalti rehati h lekin thammte hamare kadam h .   About the baby ,having a life worse then hell I must say one thing ki kya garauntee h if she have another child after getting married will be respected, won't be disgraced, if that is the truth then this is also the truth ki even that child have to suffer and will you all be able to say ki his life is worse then hell , no kyunki that is the kid after marriage that's it ,he would have a surname, a father's name bas ,toh Hume lagega he won't suffer( beautiful lie ).

I mean career ruined ? it's up to her ab USS incident k baad voh apni life rok toh nhi Sakti she has to be strong for the worse if she has a chance to survive that , kitni ladkiya Marr jaati h, Kuch ho jaata h lekin those who have chance then why not survive. Even if she abort kya chance h ki society Bolna chodddegi Kuch kahegi nhi voh tab bhi bolegi Yaar toh USS ko maarke sunne SE Acha h just give him life, raise him ,taught him well and live with proud.

I won't say Ayisha ek emotional ladki thi jazbaaton mey faisla liya krti thi no it's not true , she is the most powerful women . Not just because of her motherly love she kept the baby, if she wants to live then the child also have the right to do the same .   for me she has the guts to go against the society , GUTSY you know and DARING .

 I agree his childhood won't be easy but Yaar how could you say life like hell or more  and u ruin Ur life too an extent too, it's up to her parenting voh ussey Kitna strong banayegi Kaisi parenting degi or, uski life bhi ruined how, there so many single mothers In Our society or unke bhi young age mey Bache hote h but hopeless ni Hoti voh. (I know repeating the same thing ,gaur farmaiye ISS par)

Agar hamara point of view welcoming nhi Hoga toh Yaar aisi kitni Ayisha hongi aage Jo darr k rahengi firse .We have to be strong,Strong enough to raise the kid like total gentle men and showing the whole world ki yes I did it it's possible.

I didn't intend to hurt your feelings or views Intentionally , it's just ki what you guys are talking about is Jo hua h or hota Aaya h but what I want your main concern to bring out the "CHANGE" now.

Hume supportive Hona padega taaki jab hum society Ka part honge then girls like Ayisha doesn't have to feel humiliated have to suffer about this decision of them . Many girls those who wants to keep the baby decided to abort just because the fear of society . I merely want a change in your thought to have a welcoming , supportive and positive approach to this decision also ,I mean you all have that kind of thing too but Kahi na Kahi oppress hojaati h,so if they want to keep the child they don't have to fear the society. Change in mindset can change the future of so many Ayishas also .

This decision is harsh and hard just because society kya bolegi if we try ki yeh decision inke liye hard hi na hone do toh (those who wants ) hn, if we try to just "CHANGE"then . We have to change so that our chotu SA change can make a bigger difference.

Just like how we say ki "teach your boys to behave well then teaching girls to be submissive" same yhi logic h ,Jo cheez log seedha seedha nhi samjh rhe unhe aise samjhana Hoga. kyunki when we grow up tab humse society banegi we will be the part of the society ,agar hum yhi cheez "normal"mey nhi laa paayenge toh what's the point in being the so called responsible citizen ,educated and naari Shakti k maare lagane Ka .

If change in present is not possible then make it for the future this is just like THE WAR FOR TOMORROW AND OF TOMORROW. 

 What we have to focus is on CHANGE nothing else .

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Some beautiful solutions given by Anusha and Sarika :

ANUSHA

Because I am  against keeping the child with her as it will destroy the life of both of them . Atleast giving the child away would give the child a better life because clearly she couldn't abort the child  .

I know this solution is not Ideal and would be very tough for her

But this id is the best I could think of as it's better for both of them 

She will be satisfied that her child is alive and the child will be able to live a normal life.

: I also feel the government should think something about these children and should take the responsibility of such children . I mean should make some rules and arrangement so that such children can lead a normal life as it's not there fault and everybody has a right to live peacefully .

SARIKA:

: And i believe that girls nowadays should know self defence and escaping techniques because we dnt knw wht happnes next with whom and in this case as well ayesha if was able to escape a bit earlier then maybe situation would be not that much worst but it is actually easy to say things like this 

Because when some girls like ayesha are in this kind of sitaution they are not able to think.with presence of mind

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At last I will say ki don't feel offended and hurt just thoda sa iss par gaur krna vakt dena ,plz plz plz m saying again don't feel offended m really sorry ,if you all do feel that way .

#ChangeTheSociety #WeAreTheSociety.

Thank you .😁😁have a nice day 

Comment box is open for all of you ,plz share your thoughts and views and as I have said earlier in my post , all the comments I have till now will be posted soon .

Take care everybody.😁